HAPPY INTERNATIONAL FRIENDSHIP DAY

 
                                      "HAPPY INTERNATIONAL FRIENDSHIP DAY".
If you think that I have given this heading because I want to wish you this or I am going to share about the history of this epic day celebration, how is it originated? why do we celebrate it? how is it celebrated? Then you are landed at the wrong place dear. "

This is basically a betrayed story. This is a story of resentment.
This is a story of a conversation with our school friends on a Whatsapp group chat. Our friendship is that much older that sometimes I feel that we are friends from the stone age or before that also, but we had got the certification of this friendship when we entered JAWAHAR NAVODAYA VIDYALAYA in 2007 i.e residential Co-ed school. Where we all friends live together. We have a common mess, common bathroom, common classroom, common uniform. we had never felt any religious issues, any social-economical status problem of our classmates. Lots of us don't even know about our classmate's caste, religion, social, status .nothing. We were kids, we were innocent.

But according to time, things are changed now. We know each other's social-economical status well, we know which one of us wears kurta-pajama, who wears jeans, which one of us has spikes haircut, which one us uses set-wet gel. Point is that we all know each other's well now, from their educational qualifications to their social-economical status.
And the best part is after knowing these all things "HAME GHANTA KOI FARK NHI PADTA". 

Whenever we meet with our schoolmates we talk with them the same way as we talk during our school days, with the same nicknames, with the same emotions and some times we do leg-pulling too.

But now there are some ego issues, some inferiority complex, some jealousy, some misunderstandings, which are normal I think. these are humans nature, sometimes we control it. sometimes we can't. Reasons are, after completing school&college some of our batchmates are at the pinnacle of their career, some are struggling, some of us are married.some of us are busy making girlfriends and enjoying with them
.
There is a lot of diversity that arises nowadays.
   
These are the characters of this story:- Let's say GROUP 'A' 1.Raj 2. Sanjeev 3. Salman (this is the group who think that they were betrayed by the GROUP 'B' People)  

 GROUP 'B'  4. Namim 5.dhiraj 6.Azaz 7.Hari 8.Sunny. (This is the group who parties together, lived together, after schooling they have spent lots of time together more than with  anyone else)

GROUP 'C'  9. Purve 10. Somi 11. Naveen.
12. Anvar-ul-haq. 12.manish 13.mritunjay 14. Both priya 15. Amod 16.bhai 17.santosh ( they are like thread and needle, they want to live together, talk together, maintain unity in diversity)

GROUP 'D'  They are "Apni hi Dunia me rhne wale " people. They don't talk much, they don't give their opinions, you can easily add or remove them from your chat groups. They won't tell you a single word. They are like MUNNI of BAJRANGI BHAIJAAN.

Recently GROUP 'B' people are partied together. they were posted their pics on social media. with hashtags #reunionafter7years #friendsforever #coolbuzz #earnlikecaptainpartylikepirates etc.

And we live in a city where if you call anyone, from any corner of the city it will hardly take 1 hour to reach there. And due to lockdown and corona pandemic, everyone is at their homes. At that time corona cases were not in my city. everyone wants to meet with their childhood friends. they want to enjoy it too.

GROUP 'B' people partied, they had enjoyed it a lot. but they had done a mistake too. they were not invited GROUP 'A' 'C' 'D'. 
 As I told you GROUP D peoples are non-reactive they didn't react on this.
 GROUP 'C' people thought that this is a casual party maybe they don't know we are here too. maybe they have planned for a small party, maybe they have some budget issues, maybe they have some restrictions from their parents at home that only 5 to 6 people are allowed for a party, etc.

But GROUP 'A'  people are volatile. they take it as discrimination. And one of the GROUP 'A' members are invited for a day party & for shopping but didn't get an invitation for the night party which was the main party. they became angry.
they haven't shared their feelings at that time.

But recently on international friendship day, every emotion and anger of theirs come out when everyone of us is wishing each other Happy friendship Day on our common WhatsApp group chat. 
here is the synopsis of  WhatsApp conversations:-

SANJEEV- Kya friendship day lga rkha hai subah se hi.  koi friends nhi hai. sb bs dhong krte hai. mjhe party se sideline kyu kia gya? mjhe kyu nhi bulaya gya? tumlog apne aap ko bada aadmi smjhte ho? mjhe chhota aadmi? yar mante hai tum mahnge kapde pahnte ho, bal me gel lgate ho,hath me mehngi ghadi pehnte ho. high society wale ho. hmlog tum logo k sath fit nhi baithte hai kya? tumlog  ne kya smjh rkha hai hme?

SOMEONE REPLIED:- CHU*******

SOMEONE SAID :- In sab chijo k liye Modi jimmedar hai.
 
SALMAN REPLIED:- Sanjeev bhai awaz uthao , hm tumhare sath hai.

Because they wanted to cool the atmosphere. they didn't want to involve everyone on unnecessary fighting on this day so they are trying to make fun of this.
after watching such a reply, someone started laughing, someone started sending laughing emojis.

but as I told you there is diversity in my batchmates, everyone has a different way of thinking they think differently. they have their own perspective. A few of our friends concern it as a serious issue. Because earlier there were no such groups. No one felt discrimination ever. forget about the feeling, no one can even think of it or imagined it.
 
 keeping sanjeev`s emotions in mind

MANISH REPLIED:- Hmlog school time me sochte the ki life time hmlog dosti banaye rakhenge.chahe koi v situation ho hmlog hmesa sath rahenge. Mere andar dosto k liye aaj v whi feeling hai jo school time me thi.Agar aaj koi change ho rha hai to use apni dosti nhi bhulni chahiye chahe jaha v o jaye.

PURVE REPLIED:- Kayi bar jane anjane me hi hm ek dusre ko kyi chije bol dete hai ya aisa ku6 kr dete hai jisse kisi ko bura lg skta hai but e hamara ya kisi ka v ye intention nhi hota. sb log aise nhi hai. sab sath hi rahna sochte hai.

SOMI REPLIED:- Agar tum kisiko apna dost smjhte ho aur kisine tumhare sath galat kia hai to use usi smy bol do ,tumne aisa kyu kia. mjhe e behaviour bura lga tumhara.

NAMIM REPLIED:- Tum v to gaon me party krte ho, mjhe nhi bulate. Mere gaon sb log aao . milenge .nadi me nahyenge party krenge.


  The main motive of sharing these all are, why someone felt ignored? why someone has an inferiority complex in an old friend circle or group? why someone thinks that I am superior to the rest of you? 

Is it because we are more educated now than the others?
Is it because we have a handsome salary than the others?
Is it because we have studied in more prestigious universities than the others?
Is it because we have better social-economical status than the others?
 
Sometimes we come or cross the nearby places of our childhood friend, but we never call or try to meet them. We never try to ask them in which situations they are going through nowadays. How are they living?

Sometimes we avoid asking others situation their social-economical condition and sometimes they avoid telling us also.

Sometimes we restrict ourselves in small circles. We don't want to be friendly with everyone.

Sometimes while running towards success, goals, and wealth. We forget our friends. Our beautiful memories. Our unconditional love and attachments when we had nothing. 

I still remember that day when I gave my 12th board exam by staying at SUNNY`S home. And their family members treated us like their own family members.

One of my friends, Azaz Ahmed is that guy whom I called for a CAR on urgent need because I was getting late for a flight, and its raining and due to lockdown there is no other way of transportation other than your personal vehicle for the long drive, And without thinking anything he said, be ready dost I will be there within an hour. And he did that.

there may be a lot of stories where you helped some of your friends, they helped you too. But keep in mind a friend in need is a friend indeed.

Friends are the only person who are willingly or unwillingly used for various purposes like sharing your feeling in your good or bad times, or for any kind of help. 

I know we had some misunderstanding with each other but I know we love to live together and share our problems. we love to help each other in need. whether we talk or not, meet each other daily or not. but we miss each other daily.

Now  everything is sorted between us. there is no discrimination. We were friends , we are friends and we will be friends forever.

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